Christian View: Relationships

Sex

Read Time: 4 min.

If you’ve gotten the impression that the God Christians follow doesn’t like sex, or that the Bible is a prudish book, is it a surprise to hear that isn’t true? Is it a shock to hear that God celebrates sex? Many Christians themselves are taken aback by the unembarrassed sensuality found in the book called “Song of Solomon,” which is right in the middle of the Bible. As one lover proclaims to his p...

Leadership

Read Time: 4 min.

A lot of what Christianity has to say about leadership can be summed up pretty well in one story about Jesus with his followers: A dispute also arose among them, as to which of them was to be regarded as the greatest. And he said to them, “The kings of the Gentiles exercise lordship over them, and those in authority over them are called benefactors. But not so with you. Rather, let the greatest am...

Serving

Read Time: 3 min.

You hear a lot about service these days. Kids have service projects at school or in Scouts. People volunteer for food pantries or soup kitchens over the holidays. Social media has posts about “giving back” or “paying it forward.” But service goes way beyond that. For some people, it becomes a lifestyle. That’s what Jesus called us to—not just to do “projects,” but to spend ourselves in caring for ...

Friendship

Read Time: 4 min.

Friendship is one of the many good gifts God has given to the human race. Two or more people come together over a shared interest or activity and a relationship starts to grow—one that can become just as strong as the relationship between brothers and sisters. Those kinds of friendships are a major source of happiness in life. Ancient cultures praised friendship as something that had a really good...

Abuse

Read Time: 4 min.

You’re in a relationship, but the person you love never wants to see friends, visit family, or have them over. He or she complains if you’re on the phone with them, and asks where you’ve been if you’re more than five minutes late home from work. After a while, you realize it’s been months since you’ve seen or talked to anybody. You’re isolated and lonely. And things aren’t great at home, either… Y...

Reconciliation

Read Time: 4 min.

It’s late at night. You toss and turn, but you can’t get to sleep. You keep thinking about that person—the look on his face when you had your last fight—the tone of her voice when she told you to leave. You can’t forget the angry words, the sense of betrayal, the question of “Why?” And yet… you still miss that person. How you wish you could undo time! Will the two of you ever be back on your old t...

Parenting

Read Time: 3 min.

What is the Christian view of parenting? To be honest, there really isn’t one. Christians hold to a whole lot of different ideas, just as the rest of the world does. Some are strict, some more permissive. Some believe in attachment parenting, free-range parenting, or whatever the latest fad may be. Others rely on the advice and example of their own parents or of people they trust who are also rais...

Divorce

Read Time: 6 min.

Divorce is a painful subject. That’s why I think I’d better say where I’m coming from up front—my parents were divorced, and someone I love dearly is on the verge of divorce as I write. I’m married, but there were times when I feared we were going to wind up in the courts as well. So there’s that. What do Christians think about divorce? As you know, there’s a huge spectrum of views and practices, ...

Forgiveness

Read Time: 7 min.

In 2006, a gunman went into a small Amish school in Pennsylvania. Within minutes he killed 5 young girls and critically wounded another 5. The shooter then killed himself before police could intervene. What happened next stunned the nation: The Amish community immediately forgave the shooter. That very day they went to the shooter’s wife and parents to be with them, to mourn with them, and to say ...

Family

Read Time: 5 min.

Family. It’s in the news. It’s on your mind, most likely (how many people don’t have family problems?). What is this thing “family”? And what does Christianity have to say about it? Christians understand families as something God created—an institution among humans that has been around from the beginning. They are (generally speaking) something that human beings benefit from, just as we do from fo...

Cohabitation

Read Time: 4 min.

General consensus seems to be that cohabitation* is the new normal in America—and at face value cohabitation and marriage look pretty similar. Doesn’t it make sense to check for compatibility, save some money while you’re in a serious relationship and/or learn from the mistakes of your divorced parents? Barna shows that most of us think so. So why does Christianity persist in recommending a differ...

Same-Sex Marriage

Read Time: 7 min.

Rights? Or Wrong? Homosexuality and same-sex marriage are topics that have moved front and center in our cultural and political conversation—or perhaps more of a shouting match. Facilitated by generational shifts, this discussion has moved extremely fast. Even proponents of same-sex marriage admit that the attitude shift toward accepting and legalizing same-sex marriage over the last three decades...

Marriage

Read Time: 4 min.

“Till Definition Do Us Part” Our culture is currently spending a good deal of energy wrestling over the word ‘marriage’ and who owns it. Why are Christians spinning their wheels on this issue? It’s a big deal to us because we can trace a thread from our definition of the word ‘marriage’ to a host of our personal values—whether that be same-sex marriage, couples living...